Why your Story Matters…

Our lives are littered with stories. The fairy tales we are raised on. The stories we tell our friends at school about our lives, our families. The stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we want. We tell farces, tragedies, romantic comedies and thrillers....

Windows of Tolerance

We’ve all heard of the “comfort zone”. This is the space in which we operate most, erm, comfortably. Here we feel no distress or anxiety and we function well. The notion of the “window of tolerance” extends on this concept and applies...

Third Culture Kids & Safe Places: a Safe Self

This post is the third in a short series about Third Culture Kids and Territory. In this series we explore the ways in which Third Culture Kids can create safe places for themselves. A safe place is one where we are known. A safe place is one where we have investment...

Third Culture Kids & Safe Places: Community

So this is the second of four posts in which I explore the ways in which Third Culture Kids can engage in territory (or the building of safe places) as a means to more groundedness and belonging. A safe place is one where we are known. A safe place is one where we...

Chronic pain and losing identity…

My Chronic Pain has reared its head and roared its presence this week. I capitalize Chronic Pain because it does really seem more of a character in my story of self, than a mere experience. Chronic Pain has needs, expressions and form, and I’ve been ignoring its...